Manipulators...?

What do you do when some one call's your best friend, your "manipulator"?
Some times I wonder why people think that... does nobody think that there really can be good friendships these days?


I looked up "manipulator" on dictionay.com.. and this is what i found...

How to spot a manipulator:

It is difficult to spot manipulators, because they are so good at what they do. And it can be hard to identify and resist manipulative behaviors in your children, parents, coworkers, friends or lovers. However, once you recognize the behavior, you can learn to respond in ways that break the manipulation cycle.


Step 1:
Explore your feelings. Think about how you feel after spending time with the people in your life. Perhaps dealing with someone close to you regularly leaves you feeling exhausted, depressed, fearful, lonely, guilty or worthless. If so, chances are that you have spotted a manipulator.
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okay, first of all... who really sits and attempts to figure out what their feelings are when their around that person..?? that just seems weird to me...
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Step 2:
Notice how the person acts when you change the way you respond to the manipulative behavior. Argue back, with logic. Do not humor the manipulator. Take your time answering and responding. Don't take the bait. Be alert and prepared for changes in tactics, since the manipulator is highly invested in control and will try different strategies.
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hmm... I think i can manage arguing back... but still.. who does this?
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Stupid. Stupid. Stupid.
Thats all I have to say.

"Life is gay...I need to pray."

I have realized this week that friends are so important to me... not that I havent appreciated my friends before now.. but the fact that I appreciate them more this week than I ever have. I noticed that todays daily quote is " Peace begins with a smile". Ha! Thats so true! I've always heard people say how much they hate "high school drama" but you never realize how horrible and stupid it really is until your actually in high school and have been through it... IT SUCKS! So many people are so inconsiderate, and no one ever thinks of anyone but themselves anymore. Which of course causes people to get frustrated and a ton of misunderstandings go on, and so many people like to spread stupid rumors... I hate people that do that. It just seems so immature. That brings me to another thing... I was just talking about this the other day with my family... Monika came home from work complaining about some lady at her work that was going around and saying all these stupid things and kept saying things about people that werent true, and made me think.. how can grown ups be so immature? I get it enough at school, and its actually understandable when your talking about a bunch of teenage girls. But you never think of grown women being so immature about things too. Some times people just amaze me. Hasn't anyone ever heard the saying " when you talk about someone behind their back, they're just going to talk about you behind yours"... duh people...!!!! which also brings me to yet another thought...trust. I hate not being able to trust people... one day you decide that someone is telling you the truth, and then the next day you end up finding out that, that one thing that you thought was true, just ending up being a BIG FAT LIE. I hate that too. Or you tell someone that you trusted them to tell the truth and they actually told you that they would always be honest with you, and not keep any secrets, and then they end up breaking your heart, and you realize that you cant trust that person anymore and your friendship is completely ruined?

Somehow I have to spend the next three years dealing with this... I dont know how Im going to do it. :(

"Life is gay... I need to pray."

For Good

I've heard it said that people come into our lives for a reason. Bringing something we must learn and we are led to those who help us most to grow if we let them and we help them in return and we are led to those who help us most to grow if we let them and we help them in return now I don't know if I believe that that is true but I know I'm who I am today because I knew you... like a comet pulled from orbit as it passes the sun, like a stream that meets a boulder halfway through the wood... who can say if I've been changed for the better? But because I knew you I have been changed for good. It well may be that we will never meet again in this lifetime so let me say before we part: so much of me is what I have learned from you you'll be with me, like a handprint on my heart now whatever way our stories may end I know you have rewritten mine by being my friend... Like a ship blown from it's mooring by a wind off the sea like a seed dropped by a skybird in a distant wood who can say if I've been changed for the better? But because I knew you... I have been changed for good.